Why a Healthy Sex Life is Important

As a sex and relationship coach—and someone who has literally written the book on rediscovering intimacy—I’ve heard it all. From “I’m too old for that now” to “What’s the point when we’re both tired?” some of my girlfriends have outright declared their sex lives irrelevant. But let me tell you, giving up on your intimate life is like deciding you don’t need laughter, great food, or sleep. It’s not just about sex; it’s about the profound mental, physical, and emotional benefits that a healthy intimate connection can bring.

1. Stress? What Stress?
Let’s start with the big one—stress. Sexual activity releases feel-good chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin, which are known to reduce cortisol, the hormone responsible for stress (Source: Cleveland Clinic). This means intimacy isn’t just a pleasurable way to unwind; it’s also a natural way to tackle the chaos of everyday life. If you’re juggling kids, careers, or caregiving, intimacy can be your secret weapon for staying sane.

2. Boosting Mood and Confidence
Who doesn’t want a little more confidence? Whether through sex with a partner or solo exploration, intimacy triggers the release of endorphins—those delightful chemicals associated with pleasure and motivation. Studies have shown that sexually active individuals often report higher levels of overall happiness and self-esteem (Blanchflower and Oswald, 2004). Think of it as an investment in your emotional well-being, with some extra fun thrown in.

Read more reasons why sex is important on my Substack Newsletter.